Creating a sober life involves change in many aspects. Patience is required while clearing the wreckage of an addicted lifestyle. Being able to be aware and change thought processes can strengthen sobriety and builds a solid foundation for growth.
The victim mentality makes up a big part of the addicts repertoire. Taking charge of the direction of one’s life is never easy but it is better than resembling a fish floating downstream aimlessly. A good life skill to have is realistic goal setting. Goals should be S.M.A.R.T. or specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely.
Awareness of drug use and environmental triggers will always be something to be vigilant about. According to an article by the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), “science has taught us that stress, cues linked to the drug experience (e.g., people, places, things, moods), and exposure to drugs are the most common triggers for relapse.”
Avoiding places and music that make one nostalgic for ones drug use days can reduce these triggers. Bad memories can make one feel melancholy. Even if the music one listens to is by a favorite band it may have to be avoided. The way one dresses can make a huge difference in internal and external attitude. Some thought might have to go into altering the way one dresses if it is a trigger.
Recognizing your own bad moods can make you see what need is going unfulfilled. Sometimes it is lack of sleep, food, busyness or stress. By working on tolerating these moods one becomes internally more balanced and the external projection is a person who is in control of their emotions.
One will always have to strive for a good life, success and accomplishment. Resting on ones laurels for any length of time will only create laziness and build up work that should continue so one can grow and lead a solid life. There will always be bills to pay, relationships to work on, past memories to haunt you and as soon as one accepts this the easier it will be to ride the roller coaster of life.