Everyone experiences rejection at one time or another. When faced with the disappointment of being rejected, it is important that we find healthy ways to make ourselves feel better, rather than turn to things like self-medicating with drugs and alcohol.
Life is full of sadness, disappointment and rejection. We may feel rejected when going through a divorce, when being ignored by others, when failing to get the promotion at work, and when family and friends let us down.
These kinds of social disappointments are normal and everyone goes through them at all stages of life; from the child who is neglected by his parents or bullied by classmates, to the elderly person who sits alone for days without a visit from family members.
Negative Coping Methods
Many people, when faced with rejection, exhibit unhealthy behavior. The most common way an individual reacts to disappointment is to get angry or bitter, often putting up walls to protect themselves.
Other people try to take the pain away with drugs or alcohol. They may get high to forget their pain or to try to fit in with the crowd, or they may drink excessively to numb their feelings. Self-medicating only makes the problem worse, however, and many people find themselves quickly addicted to the drugs or alcohol.
Healthy Reactions to Rejection
It is important that we all learn how to deal with rejection or disappointment in a healthy way. One of the most effective ways to manage these feelings is to confide in someone we can trust. Whether it is a friend, relative, co-worker, counselor, or minister, there are people who are willing to listen and offer emotional support to someone struggling with negative feelings.
In addition to talking the problem out with another person, a healthy diet, exercise and meditation can also help improve our mood and help us overcome the difficult feelings of rejection.